Yes maybe no dating

Read my ramblings on Falling in Love, Being in Love & Thirty-Six Questions, inspired by the New York Times Op Ed Piece To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This.

While I don't fully buy into the idea that answering these thirty-six questions will make you fall in love with , I do think it's a good way to kickstart the process.

Gone are the days companionate romance with its detached intimacy and desire. We now look to relationships for "Self-Actualization" on Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs.

We expect partners to tickle the depths of our soul, play our trusted sidekick, inspire our journey of personal exploration, and satisfy our lust for novelty, among other things...

Entrepreneur Derek Sivers' devised his Hell Yeah or No philosophy to simplify decision-making.

There's no yes, there's no maybe, there's no "let's stew on this for a few days." And when you find the rare Hell Yeah thing, you commit to it -- sickness or health, bankruptcy or liquidity event, unshaven legs or ballgown, you commit hardcore. Don't waste time on the wrong side of The Suffocation Model, but instead hold out for Hell Yeah partners. Unless you have low standards, very few people should be make you say Hell Yeah. A Hell Yeah partner will make you less - not more - anxious.

At the very least, they will offer up an alternative solution.

This in itself separates those who are genuinely interested (daters), from those who aren’t (users). I had already made plans with friends.” Which woman truly has your best interest in mind?

When neuroscientists delivered an electric shock to women holding their partner's hand, the women in the relationships (measured by relationship quality) showed a significantly lower neural response to the same level of electricity than women holding the hand of a less satisfying partner.

They're More Than a Passing Addiction A Hell Yeah partner is not your obsession of the week.

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