Do and dont of dating
The process of courtship in China seems to be much more important than the process of courtship in the United States.While there is a lot more sexual activity among younger Chinese, a lot of Chinese girls still expect the utmost courtesy and respect when a male is seeking their affection, especially if the goal is to be in a relationship.Could it be that the responders to their questionnaires were rather young, and that’s why the “hottest” guys appear 18-20 while OK Cupid’s employees who look to be at least mid-20s were even considered semi-decent?I thought the employees were far better looking than their high quality users. Though I’d also be curious if they had more stratified data (like having people rate people who are similar in age or in the age range that the person is willing to date, or by race, education level, etc.).In other words, if you’re getting 1 out of 3 people writing back to you, you’re doing okay. If you’re writing to a very attractive person, you now know you’re competing with everyone else on the website.
2) Women, on the other hand, rate 80% of men as below average.
Let me repeat: It’s women, not men, who have unrealistic standards for the “average” member of the opposite sex.
After coaching women for many years, I already suspected this, but this was a stark realization when you see just how few men you even find to be average looking. Ok Cupid reports that the most attractive women still receive 5X more email than average women and 28X more email than unattractive women.
To sum up, women find most men ugly, but write to them anyway.
Men find most women reasonably attractive but spend their time writing only to the hottest ones. As for how this affects YOUR online dating experience?